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Imagine being able to bring your woman to orgasm every time. Imagine her pulling you into the bedroom to get it on because she KNOWS that it’s only a matter of time until you’re able to make her entire body buck and shiver, and bring her to an intense, delicious orgasm. 

How can you do this? 

It’s simple, once you get down to the nuts and bolts. 

Give her permission to experience pleasure. In fact, sometimes you might even want her to take the lead. 

While it’s common for women to love being dominated in bed, there’s another side to that coin.

You see, most men aren’t born knowing exactly what women like in bed. It takes years of learning what gives them pleasure, how to touch them, where to touch them, and what kind of stimulation is most likely to get her off. 

That’s why sex toys aren’t just for masturbation anymore. Bringing sex toys into partner play can really solve the “no orgasms” problem. 

The presence of sex toys allows her to: 

  • Discover exactly what she likes and what gets her off, through different vibration patterns 
  • Show you exactly what she likes and what gets her off 
  • Allow you to provide penetration and internal stimulation in the exact way she needs to orgasm every single time. 

But why focus on vibrators with clit stimulators? 

I have a truth bomb for you. 

No matter how long you’re able to stay hard enough to have sex with her, no matter how good you are at caressing and kissing, you STILL might never succeed in getting her off…

Unless you know the one secret that unlocks pleasure for the vast majority of women… 

The almighty clitoris holds the key to the elusive female orgasm. 

In fact, 70% of all women can’t orgasm unless they stimulate the clit. That means that MOST women can’t even THINK about coming until they’ve played with their clitoris. 

In fact, multiple studies throughout the years have continued to show the same dismaying result: only 50 to 70 percent of women orgasm during any given sexual encounter, and WORSE, up to 15% of women have literally never had an orgasm. 

Which is why it’s essential for couples to understand how to achieve the female orgasm, and the exact steps you can take to send her over the edge during intercourse. 

In fact, If you’re not sure how to bring your woman to orgasm, you need to check out my masterclass, She Comes Too. Complete with the exact steps you need to take in order to bring your woman intense pleasure, you’ll learn how to give her multiple orgasms in one night, and she’ll beg you for more. 

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How clit vibrators can make partnered sex better 

Apparently, there’s always room to make sex a more enjoyable, adventurous time, so if you’re looking to spice things up, signing up for some clit vibration might be a great place to start.

According to a study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, men who regularly use vibrators (on themselves, their partners, or both), score higher on measures of erectile function, orgasm function, sexual desire, and sexual satisfaction than men who never or rarely reach for vibrators. 

Why could this be? 

Quite possibly because when you have an open mind about how to make your sex life better, you’re probably going to succeed in having a better sex life. 

In fact, Psychology Today reports that “Generally speaking, couples who can explore novel ways of being intimate — including trying out one or more sex toys — tend to fare better in terms of maintaining passion and desire (in addition to relationship satisfaction) over the long haul. A 2016 study conducted by Chapman University’s David Frederick, Ph.D., found that women and men who reported feeling satisfied by their relationship and the sex that they had with their partners were more likely to report having used sex toys together — in addition to other activities, such as taking a shower together, trying new positions in bed, and scheduling a date night to have sex.”  

My dudes, it’s less about the magic wand itself, and far more about your attitude toward it. 

Couples who have better sex lives are open minded and willing to try new things. (And heck, if you end up not liking something, that’s totally cool.) But the research is clear: a positive attitude and an open mind — and a spirit of adventure — is a surefire way to spice it up. 

So bring on the powerful vibrations, baby!

Why a G-Spot and Clit Vibrator Isn’t Here to Replace You (No Matter How Much Pleasure it brings your Woman) 

A lot of men have the wrong idea about clit sucking vibrators and the like. 

They view it as a threat.

“But Caitlin,” you say, “if she brings a super fancy clit licking vibrator  into bed with her, she doesn’t need me, right?” 

Wrong. 

Don’t underestimate how amazing it is for a woman to have a man in bed with her — especially the super hunky man she loves. (YOU!) 

No piece of vibrating plastic (no matter how amazing) can replace you in bed. Sex toys are here to enhance your sexual relationship with your partner, not replace it. 

Think of clit vibraotors like a tool. They’re here to enhance partner play. 

Think about it … does masturbation replace your woman? Hell no! 

What if You Still Feel Unsure About All those Clit Vibrator Orgasms Replacing You? 

If you feel like your woman is going to grab onto a clit vibrator and forget about your dick entirely, I have a surefire solution for you. 

Talk it out. 

(You knew I was going to say that, didn’t you?) 

Through open, positive communication, you can let your partner know about your concerns about the role that little silicone buzzy rabbit plays in your sex life. In this way, you can show your woman how much she means to you, and how seriously you take your role as being her sexy knight in shining armor, here to whisk her off her feet. 

By being open about reaching for the sex toys, but establishing clear boundaries around how they’re used, you and your sexy lady can open up a whole new world of fun. 

If you’re ready to dive in, I have some delicious ideas for you to try. 

Into Voyeurism? Learn about what she likes by watching her masturbate. 

Voyeurism might be the most underrated way to learn about what gets your woman off. The fact of the matter is, you can guess about what she likes, and you can pick up cues to how her body responds. 

But by watching her pleasure herself, you’re skipping the trial and error and learning EXACTLY how she likes to be touched and how long it typically takes for her to come when conditions are right. 

The best part? Watching her get to her point of no return is a GREAT idea for men with premature ejaculation. Instead of dealing with early ejaculation and not being able to bring her to orgasm, watch rapturously as she brings herself to the edge, and then you can join her, finishing together. 

Delicious. 

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G-spot and Clit Vibrators Can (and should) be used by men in the bedroom 

When most people and publications talk about clit vibrators, they focus on women. Which makes sense. The clit has thousands of nerve endings, and these vibrating clit rings and rabbits feel incredible for women. 

But there’s no reason to leave men out of the conversation. These buzzing buddies can also deliver men a whole lot of pleasure, and empower them in the bedroom. (Hello vibrating cock ring! Has your manhood ever been so happy?) 

A lot of dudes worry that by bringing a clit vibrator into the bedroom, they’re effectively bringing in a sex robot to replace them. 

The truth is, vibrators do NOT replace men. They enhance the sexual encounter, and yes, they make sex more enjoyable for men. (Because let’s face it, is there anything more satisfying than bringing your woman to earth-shattering orgasm? I think not.) 

Look — enjoying sex with your partner is much like an adult sandbox. It should be fun! Explorative! A fun place where you can get creative and try new things!  When men take on this attitude, their women enjoy a better sex life, more sexual encounters, and increased satisfaction. 

Things to remember before reaching for the vibrators

The vulva can be very sensitive. It’s always a good idea to use lube when you’re introducing a vibrator. As you car mechanics know, lube decreases friction and makes the experience more enjoyable. 

Furthermore, keep in mind that different women will have different responses to external and internal stimulation. All bodies are different. There’s no one-size-fits all magic solution. 

So, while it feels like there are about a million clit vibrators out there, it’s always a good idea to involve your partner in the decision process about which one is the best sex toy for you. 

That’s why I’ve compiled this list of the most amazing, glitter-and-rainbow inducing clit vibrators for when you need a surefire way to bring your woman to orgasm and have some extra fun during your next steamy sexual encounter. 

The Best Clit Vibrators For Any Occasion

Without further ado, here’s your ultimate list for finding a bomb clit vibrator that will make her wet, open, and ready to orgasm. 

Best affordable option for stimulating the clitoris: the Incredible Oral Tongue and the iroha mini Fuji-lemon

Want to blow her mind without blowing your bank balance? This clit licking vibrator by Pink Cherry looks like a tongue — for good reason. It’s designed to mimic oral sex (and we ladies can tell you — getting our clits licked is one of the finest experiences known to all humankind. I’m not even kidding.) 

According to Pink Cherry, “The Incredible Oral Tongue was created to mimic the pleasures of a tireless playmate lapping and licking as long as needed with some powerful vibration thrown in.” 

Use it on her clit, on her nipples, and even try it on your taint, shaft, nipples, and anus. You might be pleasantly surprised at how amazing this one feels, and for a glorious price tag of only $23.99. 

I have another bonus affordable option for you guys! Not only is the iroha mini Fuji-lemon super cool in its design, but it can be used multiple ways.  The pointed tip provides targeted sensation and the wide side can be used for vibrations on the entire vulva. It fits in the palm of your hand and is only $25. 

Use the iroha mini fuji-lemon in the bath (waterproof!), take it with you on vacation by popping this little guy in your pocket. It’s discrete, fun, and delivers some powerful vibrations. 

Best clit vibrator during penetrative sex: the Eva II Quartz

Sometimes you don’t want to worry about operating a toy and you want to focus on delivering pleasure to your partner with good ol’ classic lovemaking. 

For a lovely hands-free clit vibrator, check out the Eva II Quartz. All she has to do is tuck this little guy in her labia so the little nub sits on her clit. You can enter her in any position — even doggie style — without this vibrator falling out. 

This way, you can focus on what really matters while she enjoys the the most incredible penetrative sex and partner play of her life. I love this, because the toy doesn’t have to be the central focus of lovemaking. 

Best G-spot and clit vibrator: The We-Vibe Match Remote Control Rechargeable Clitoral and G-Spot Vibrator or the We-Vibe Nova 2 

When a woman’s g-spot and clit are both stimulated at once, she experiences a TIDAL WAVE of pleasure. You can get kinky with this one too. Since this toy is remote-control, use it to assert dominance over her during foreplay. Featuring both internal stimulation and clit sensations, she’ll get lost in deep pleasure. I promise. 

Looking for a more classic option? The We-Vibe Nova 2 features two separate vibration modes — one for the clit and the other for the g-spot. (Talk about serious pleasure!) She’ll love this one, with its sleek handle, smooth and slippery silicone, and ability to switch to different vibration patterns. 

The Best Rabbit Vibrator for pleasuring her g-spot and clit: the Soraya Wave by Lelo 

Let’s face it — some ladies just want their rabbit. I get it. Rabbits are amazing for their “come hither” pulsing that feels amazing, while stimulating both the g-spot and clit for extra deep sensations. 

Want to really spoil your girl? Go ahead and get the Soraya Wave by Lelo. The super smooth silicone, 8 pleasure settings, and flexibility will make her feel like a queen. 

Best travel-size clit vibrator for the globe trottin’ couple: the Vesper Vibrator Necklace or the Palma Vibrator Ring 

the vesper vibrator necklace -- discrete clitoral vibrator

Need something small, discrete, and won’t start buzzing from the depths of your suitcase when you’re in a crowded airport? 

Yeah.  That happens. 

For you adventurous both inside and out of the bedroom, check out these uber-discrete options that she can wear — for all the world to see. Yes, they are literally so under-the-radar that no one will be the wiser. 

She can wear this one like a necklace. She can tuck it into her shirt or wear it out and proud. (After all, know one will know but you. Sexy, right?) 

If she’s a ring-lover, show her the Palma Vibrator Ring, which looks like bling but is actually a glitzy harbinger of pleasure. 

Best unisex vibrator: Enby by Wild Flower 

This one looks like a mini bicycle seat, and I love it for the versatility. It’s designed to fit a variety of bodies, which makes it the perfect tool for edging and partner play. 

The ridges on the bottom make this a great sex toy for men. Wrap this beauty around your joystick like a taco for penis pleasure. You’ll both fall in love.

Made by super soft and smooth silicone, this one’s so versatile, it’ll be with you for the long haul. 

Best for super-targeted, intense stimulation: The Zumio

Okay, this guy DEFINITELY belongs in the super-targeted, intense category. This toy is NOT  just for clit vibration.  The teensy, targeted tip rotates, and features three vibration patterns, great for any sensitive area of the human body. Wink wink. 

In fact, this one’s a great toy for edging, and it can help desensitize extra sensitive penises. With just one touch, you’ll understand how powerful this unassuming little guy is. 

If she’s into intense vibes, go with the X. It might be the best sex toy ever for people who need a little more sensation.

Looking for something a little less intimidating? The S-style stem delivers a more chill, less intense stimulation. 

And finally, the E rotates in an elliptical pattern, has a rigid stem, and small convex tip for multi-touch intensity. 

The best clit sucking vibrator? YOU!

Sometimes the best vibrator is you. You have hands, lips, a tongue, and a beautiful schlong. With a little creativity and a lot of water-based lube, you can pleasure her clit until she comes. 

Talk about a great night. 

Some examples?

Maybe you’re pounding her doggie-style. She’ll love it if you reach your arm down and rub her clit in a circular motion with one or two fingers. 

Is she riding on top in cowgirl? Fabulous. Place your thumb on her clit and let her grind on it. 

If you deal with premature ejaculation or not lasting as long as she does in bed, don’t forget the magical powers of oral sex. Gently suck on and lick her clit in circular motions so she gets as wet as a slip n’ slide.  Bring her to the edge of orgasm and then start having penetrative sex by the time she’s begging you for it. You might both come at the same time! 

And don’t forget to encourage her to pleasure herself during penetrative sex as well. A lot of ladies feel uncomfortable touching themselves during partnered sex because they’re worried it’ll make thier partners feel like they aren’t doing enough. Let her know her pleasure comes first, and encourage her to rub her clit. 

The Clitoris loves foreplay. 

For many women, the clit is the star of the show when it comes to triggering an orgasm. Grab some organic, water-based lube and explore her vulva with your hands. Slow, sensual movements work best for warming her up to play time. 

(PLEASE don’t do that porn thing where you rub her clit like you’re scratching a record! Unless she asks you to push hard and flail your hand around …. just don’t do it.) 

If you’re fingering her you can either use your thumb or your other hand to stimulate her clit. Remember to listen and pay attention. If she’s gotten louder, is grinding against your hand or straight up tells you what to do… listen. Her taking control of her own pleasure is the straight path to orgasm, my dudes! 

Same thing goes with oral stimulation. Obviously every woman is different so take your time to figure out what she likes. Maybe it’s moving your tongue in little circles around her clit, maybe she likes suction, maybe she wants you to penetrate her with your tongue. She might want your fingers inside her while you lick, suck or kiss her clit. 

Whatever you decide to do with her clit remember to take your time and follow her lead. Allow her to feel relaxed and sexy and she will be more likely to cum. 

The Secret to Frequent Orgasms: Experimentation!

There is nothing wrong with playing around to see what you like in bed. In fact, I encourage it! And bringing toys into the bedroom can be a great way to experiment. 

After all, why keep going through each sexual encounter without giving her orgasms? Clit vibrators have the power to bring her to orgasm every time — and can drastically improve sexual satisfaction and delay ejaculation for men who need to last a little longer. 

Furthermore, a lot of women have such a hard time achieving orgasm because they don’t have a clear idea on what brings them to orgasm, or what they like in bed. By encouraging her to play with a vibrator, she’s unlocking a whole new world of pleasure, while increasing communication between you and discovering more pleasure zones than ever before. 

Sex shouldn’t be underwhelming. Check out my Masterclass, She Comes Too, to discover the fail-safe ways to give her pleasure and bring her to orgasm every time.

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