The Real Reason You Can’t Get an Erection (And What to Do About It)

A lot of men come to me who are convinced they have erectile dysfunction (ED). They’ve gone to their doctors and gotten prescriptions for Viagra, Trimix, and Cialis. They think their physical erection system is broken. But I’m not so sure. These men need some kind of ED treatment, sure. But their problem might not be physical in nature. It …

No Pleasure & Faking Orgasms: Performance Anxiety in Women

Guess what, gentlemen! You are not the only ones who suffer from performance anxiety. When it comes to anxiety and sex, few people escape. All of us – male, female, and people who identify as neither and both – can fall victim to performance anxiety. For men, performance anxiety often manifests as premature ejaculation. When men experience anxiety around sex, …

How Often Should You Masturbate?

I’ve worked with clients who feel guilt over masturbating. They ask me, “Do I masturbate too much?” Believe it or not, masturbation can help you have a better sex life. Just like Goldilocks, there is a perfect amount of masturbation for you, and today you and I are going to figure it out. Here’s the low-down. A Natural Thing that …

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Three Great Relationship Evils

A very wise woman once told me there are three great evils in the world: greed, avoidance, and chaos. Now, these simple terms can hardly summarize the true meaning of the forces behind them, but they can stand in for now until we develop a deeper understanding. Stay with me. What I will do here is explain how each of …