“I can’t practice lasting longer in bed if I don’t have a partner to practice WITH!”
Guys, this is not square dancing. You do not need a partner to practice curing PE.
In fact, sometimes it’s better to NOT practice on the super foxy woman who winks at you from across the room. Even if that super foxy woman is your wife.
Wank. Be a lone ranger. Take a self-guided tour. Give yourself a hand. You guessed it: masturbation.
In today’s video, I show you exactly how to masturbate in a way that will help you last longer in bed with a woman and cure your PE.
Because going it alone is sometimes the best way to preserve your manly confidence, so you can show your woman your finely-tuned skills… and keep the journey between you and your joystick.
You see, once you learn the moves, you’ll see that masturbation is actually the most valuable tool that you have in your arsenal to cure your Premature Ejaculation.
What is Premature Ejaculation?
Also known as “early ejaculation”, premature ejaculation (or PE) has several different definitions. Mainly, because scientists can’t all agree on how to measure this specific sexual dysfunction.
Sometimes, it’s measured as “ejaculating within two minutes of penetration” and other times its “two minutes and 55 seconds.”
But you know what? Who’s holding the stupid stopwatch in real life?
In a lot of these studies they really do have a female sexual partner hold a stop watch. Like, “Hmm. Oh, click, done, a minute and 55. Good job, Ben.”
But we all know that premature ejaculation is more than the time on the clock. The quality of sexual satisfaction — and the pleasure of both partners — matters far more than how long it takes to orgasm.
So… the definition I like to use is “ejaculation that happens before you or your partner are ready.”
If you and your partner want to last seven minutes, great, climb that mountain. And if you and a future partner want to last 40 minutes, fantastic, let’s get you up that mountain. But either way, you do not need a partner to increase your stamina up to 15 or 20 minutes. You actually already have the best tool that you need to build stamina so you can treat premature ejaculation and last longer in bed.
While premature ejaculation affects one in three American men, nobody really talks about it. And here’s the thing — it doesn’t’ get better on it’s own. But there are things you can do to treat premature ejaculation — if you’re willing to put in the time and effort to cure it.
The Mindset Behind Treating Premature Ejaculation with Masturbation
You can’t climb up the side of a wall without any sort of gear or rope or any safety precautions without a serious, focused mindset. The same is true when it comes to using self pleasure to overcome premature ejaculation.
In both cases, you have to listen to the messages your body sends you.
This is the time to discover how your body responds to different touches, strokes, and to learn how you can use deep breathing exercises and timing to delay ejaculation just a bit longer.
Solo sex is the perfect way to key into these things.
Masturbation has a lot of similarities to intercourse with a sexual partner. When you consider breath, body position, speed, lubricant.
Why you should care about lasting longer in bed
The number one reason for men wanting to last longer in bed is to give their partner more sexual satisfaction and be able to bring her to orgasm through penetration.
By being able to ejaculate exactly when you want, you can deepen your connection with your partner, increase her pleasure, and please her — even to the point of giving her multiple orgasms.
This goal is totally legit. However, it often causes men to think they NEED to have a partner in order to practice the skills necessary to increase their staying power.
This can backfire.
A study at Valparaiso University, Northwest Indiana, found that men with Premature Ejaculation are more likely to take blame for any negative experiences and take less credit for positive sexual experiences.
If you keep practicing on every girl you get into bed with, and it keeps backfiring, eventually you will lose all of your self-esteem and you’ll stop trying altogether.
So if your partner is not the goal, what is?
Yourself! That’s right. You and only you. Improving your stamina in bed can boost your confidence and increase your sense of power. You’ll experience the euphoria from a strong performance.
And you can feel successful after increasing your ejaculation time, even with no one else in the room. Your sexuality is yours to own.
Three ways masturbation is a fantastic practice for improving sexual performance
The more you experiment and get to know your body on its own, the more you will be able to control your ejaculation in all circumstances. Here are a couple reasons why masturbation is the perfect way to overcome premature ejaculation.
Having premature ejaculation can make men afraid to approach women.
Even if a man DOES work up the courage to approach a woman, he might stop himself from inviting her to the horizontal shuffle.
After all, most men don’t want to start something they can’t finish — or finish too soon.
Training yourself to last longer through masturbation is a great way to get the confidence you need to be an absolute casanova in the bedroom.
You’ve been trained to bust off too soon.
Bear with me here…
You probably started jacking off when you were a teenager. You jacked off in the shower, before falling asleep, and tried to get it done quickly before you got caught.
Over time, you learned a thing or two about how to wank off — and reach orgasm — as quickly as possible.
Those techniques probably caused you to miss out on the full range of sensation that actually is available to you.
The good news: you can practice new techniques that will actually help you feel more and for longer, no matter where you are. I even put together all of the best techniques that I have developed by coaching men four years into my course called, Come When You Want.
So next time you see a lady you want to flirt with, your increased stamina could give you the confidence that you need to approach her, and maybe even bring her to bed.
You have a partner who wants you to last longer in bed.
Even if she’s patient, sometimes tension builds up for both of you, and she gets tired of dealing with your early ejaculation problems.
This can cause a TON of pressure for any relationship, causing stress, and in turn, hurting your stamina.
Solo sex allows you to be more logical and objective. Curiously discovering your own arousal can help you last longer in bed… without putting your wife through your training regimen.
And doing that kind of exploration on your own is important. Especially if your partner makes is a little bit too good at over analyzing.
So, the next time you sit down to masturbate, consider how this is your most important tool for lasting longer in bed. At this point, better sex is basically guaranteed.