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Brush Yourself Off

We all fall short of our own expectations sometimes. Whether we expect ourselves to maintain a strict exercise routine or we demand a high level of emotional control at all times, we are human. We mess up. We make mistakes. What’s important is not the particularities of the mistake, but how we respond to it. Think for a second, when …

Living as if today was your last

What would you do today if you knew it was your last day on earth? This scary thought exercise is a key part in my favorite wake-up ritual (borrowed from here). The idea is that every morning after you’ve reflected on what you’re grateful or excited for in your life, after you’ve set your major goals for the day, you …

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Three Great Relationship Evils

A very wise woman once told me there are three great evils in the world: greed, avoidance, and chaos. Now, these simple terms can hardly summarize the true meaning of the forces behind them, but they can stand in for now until we develop a deeper understanding. Stay with me. What I will do here is explain how each of …

Sex and House Guests

When is it appropriate to have sex when you’re hosting people? What about when you’re the one being hosted? Is it ever appropriate to have sex when you’re sharing a roof with friends or family? Here are some things to consider before you do your thing–or don’t–it’s up to you. How are you related to them? How understanding will they …