Are you a F*ckboy, or are you a man that has mastered the fine art of lovemaking?
No judgment either way.
Because look — f*cking’s great. You might be awesome at it. And there’s definitely a place for that.
But do you know how to make love? If you’re unsure, it’s not your fault. After all, it’s not like anyone would have taught you how to make love.
But even if you’ve spent LOTS of time “making love”, you might have some blind spots. Especially since most women won’t tell you what, precisely, you might be messing up.
For example, did you know there are four distinct stages of making love?
That’s why in this blog, I’m going to show you the four stages of lovemaking.
Because if I were to pass out a pop quiz right now asking “How does sex begin” I bet 95% of you would say “foreplay.”
Well, that’s not actually true. Lovemaking, my friends, begins with seduction.
Even if you’re married, even if you’ve been with your partner for 35 years, sex always starts with seduction.
The 4 Stages of Lovemaking
Let’s dive into exactly … step by step … how to make love to a woman like the world-class man you are.
Stage 1: Master the art of seduction.
If she already put a ring on it, why do you have to seduce her? Does that kind of seem silly? Well, no. Here’s why.
Seduction is the art of staying interesting to your partner.
It means you’re not taking the relationship — or her — for granted.
What is seduction?
Simply put, seduction is the art of showing a woman how much you care about her, how much you appreciate her, how much you love spending time with her, and making her feel beautiful.
How do you seduce a woman?
Seduction takes time. Here are some ideas:
- Start early in the day with romance, with a long kiss before you leave for work.
- Send her flowers on her lunch break.
- Leave a little note on the mirror saying how beautiful she is.
- Help her with the house cleaning. Help her clean the dishes, help her do the laundry. Just take some load off her plate.
Not only will this make her feel more appreciated and more interested in YOU, like you really see her, but she will feel so much less stressed and so much relaxed, which puts her in the mindset for sex.
Stage 2: Warm her up with some expert foreplay
Engaging in foreplay is one of the most important things a man can do before sex — and one of the things men forget to do most often.
Why is foreplay essential? Because:
- foreplay makes sex far more enjoyable for her
- foreplay helps you avoid hurting your partner during sex
- and makes it far more likely for her to reach orgasm
But let’s back up. What exactly IS foreplay?
Foreplay is any touching, kissing, or rubbing in such a way that gets you both aroused for sex, but is not yet penetrative.
Foreplay involves a combination of words, touch, and body language, and the possibilities here are endless.
Just like seduction, foreplay requires you to slow down and take your time. This phase should literally take at least 20 to 40 minutes.
Sheri Winston, author of “Women’s Anatomy of Arousal” says that ideally, penetration only happens when a woman is fully lubricated, aroused, and begging for it.
Let that sink in.
Think of foreplay as the main event and intercourse as the side dish.
Stage 3: Time for intercourse
Intercourse is probably the most amazing feel-good thing ever. Just the feeling of being inside her is incredible, but most men don’t necessarily do intercourse in a way that feels great for the woman. Here’s why.
Men are used to watching mainstream porn where men just pound, pound, pound away for hours. Guys, that’s not hot. That doesn’t feel good.
For God’s sake, introduce more stillness during penetration, learn the benefits of stillness and learn to switch up your thrusting methods during sex.
Look, the thing with the intercourse is that you need to adjust how you do it each time. Even with your wife of 20 years. Key into her body to recognize what her body needs this time. Not every woman needs love the same way every single time. You have to adjust to the tides, my friend.
Stage 4: Aftercare.
When you’re done, you’re not done.
We are our most vulnerable right after sex. If you just hop up and light a cigarette, your partner might be left feeling a little bit unresolved or worse, used or taken advantage of. You don’t want that.
What is aftercare?
Aftercare is the tender act of tending to your partner’s needs, whatever those are, after sex.
This can include hugging her, cuddling with her, or grabbing a warm damp towel to wipe her body off.
Maybe that means you’re going to grab a snack or a hot coco.
Maybe you’re going to run a bath or simply move her off the wet spot.
So my advice is to plan ahead for aftercare. It’s not something you can necessarily wing on the fly. Keep in mind, this is a whole experience. You are closing off this experience with this woman. If you both want to fall asleep after sex, cool. That’s great. Sex makes sleep way better and way easier. So if you both agree that you just want to fall asleep out for sex, that’s great, but let her know in advance.
Lovemaking is a fine art.
A grown man should be able to expertly move through these four stages of lovemaking and deliver an incredible sexual experience.
If you are not sure about your skills in any one of these four stages of lovemaking, please check out my course She Comes Too for a primer and step by step pro tips on each of these four parts: seduction, foreplay, intercourse, and aftercare.
I designed this course specifically for men like you to move from Average Joes in the sack to total sex gods in no time at all. Check it out by clicking here.