Sup, Internet! Today we’re going to talk about your favorite subject: squirting.
That’s right: squirting is not just something you can do with guns.
It’s been a few years since Tripp and I got together to film that famous squirting video, so I thought I’d issue a refresh on the topic of female ejaculation, aka squirting.
Why Make a Woman Squirt?
Aside from the fact that it feels uh-maz-ing, I just want to throw in there that it LOOKS cool. She’s ejaculating! It kind of looks like a man’s ejaculation. There’s an event that occurs that confirms: ORGASM HAD!
There’s no faking it. You can’t fake a squirting orgasm. It’s the REAL DEAL.
Another reason you should learn how to make a woman squirt: if you can’t last very long in bed or if you weren’t endowed with a huge schlong, you can make up for it by making her squirt. You don’t have to know a bunch of fancy techniques, you don’t have to be an otherwise amazing lover… you don’t have to speak French and chew on roses.
In fact, you don’t have to do much at all if you can give her the best orgasm ever.
Because if you can make your girlfriend squirt, you’ll be legendary in the bedroom, and she’ll be begging you for more.
In fact, I don’t know of any other sex technique that can SO QUICKLY escalate you to Sex God status. This article (and my accompanying YouTube video) will teach you exactly how.
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Men Aren’t The Only Ones Who Ejaculate!
What does it mean when a woman squirts? Hello female ejaculation! Here are some things you need to know:
Female ejaculate fluid is NOT urine.
There are a LOT of misconceptions out there that squirting is urine. While female ejaculate fluid sometimes has urine in it, it’s actually liquid from the skene’s gland (sometimes called the female prostate). It comes from the blood, is separated from the red blood cells, and then is released from the body through the urethra (where it sometimes picks up some urine) and squirts out of the body.
It’s not from the bladder, guys. It’s not pee.
It comes through the same channel as urine, but from a different gland. It’s liquid that the body exchanges from the blood.
It’s not bad to squirt, it’s not unhealthy to squirt, and it feels great! No worries here!
The skene’s gland is closely associated with the G-Spot.
Stimulating the G-spot is key to achieving a squirting orgasm. You can have a G-spot orgasm without squirting, and you can squirt without having a G-spot orgasm, but today we’re going to fuse these things together for the ultimate, most pleasurable experience possible.
First Step: Set the stage.
A woman’s ability to be a squirter is very VERY context dependent. If the context isn’t right, squirting is not going to happen. In other words, she needs to feel comfortable, she needs to be fully relaxed, she needs to be able to have an orgasm to BEGIN with, and she needs to feel comfortable enough with YOU in order to totally let go and have intense orgasms.
For some couples, this is possible from the very first time they have sex. The sexual chemistry is there, they’re just in-sync, on-point, they both know their bodies very well, and they’re able to have great sex. But let’s be real. For a lot of women, sex with a new person can be awkward and you’re still feeling each other out. This is not the best time to go for the squirt.
Alternatively, if you’re in a situation where there’s a real threat to relaxation: parents or kids in the next room, dirty dishes in the sink, relationship is on the rocks – it might not work. There’s a lot that goes into setting the stage for a woman to squirt.
How to Make a Woman Squirt
Set the scene.
As I said earlier: context, context, context! It is SO important for her to be comfortable, relaxed, and present with you in the moment.
Start by making sure you have plenty of time, so if she has to run off to an appointment in an hour, it’s a no-go.
Start with some relaxing massages, slowly build up the foreplay, and MAKE SURE YOUR FINGERNAILS ARE TRIMMED because we’re going to be doing some pretty heavy fingering later. Ensure that she has taken a shower and used the restroom, mainly for her own comfort and ability to relax. Not all women need to do this to feel sexual, but it can certainly help.
Oh, and make sure you have a couple of towels and lube handy. You’re not going to want to walk away after the squirting happens. You’re going to want to be right there with her in the afterglow. ;)
Take some pressure off.
Further set the stage by telling her that no matter what happens, it’s all good. If she accidently pees, no big deal! You got her. You still love her. Her pleasure matters.
Tell her “It’s okay if this happens but it’s okay if we can’t.” I’m here with you, let’s just have some fun. No pressure, no concerns about peeing, reassure her that it’s okay to let go and let it happen.
Make sure she’s aroused!
If she’s multi-orgasmic, or capable of having multiple orgasms, it’s a good idea to give her one or two orgasms before goin’ to squirt town. It’s not necessary, but it does help.
The most important thing: her arousal. This is NOT something you can go for after a few minutes of foreplay or a couple minutes of having sex. We’re talkin’ 20, 40, or even 60 minutes into sex. (which is why you need to be able to last! Go check out Come When You Want!)
Feel up the G.
Is she super aroused? Does her G-spot feel like a spongey, bumpy round mound? You’re going to slide your fingers up her vagina and make the “come hither” motion with your fingers, pulsing your fingers toward you again and again, SLOWLY, with consistent strokes, building up speed and pressure over time.
When she’s close to coming, you can see the tell-tale signs of orgasm: the quickening breath, the flushing of her skin, the movement of her body and her hips – watch the series of signs that shows a woman is about to reach orgasm. This is the time for this next technique.
SHAKE SHAKE SHAKE!
When she’s about to reach her peak, keep fingering her, but this time start shaking your arm vigorously. Hold your wrist tense, and shake HARD AND VIGOROUSLY. Trust me, her vagina can take it. Invite her to tell you if it becomes too much, but otherwise you will be surprised. Especially in the heat of the moment when people are super aroused, their pain tolerance goes up, so she’ll be able to take a LOT of pressure.
Build pressure, build pressure, KEEP BUILDING, and bam! Bring her all the way, baby.
Don’t Stop! Ride that Pressure!
Even when she starts coming, don’t stop! You’ll want to keep pushing on until she’s done with her orgasm. You’re going to want to maintain connection and pressure to the G-spot – and perhaps on the clit as well – until after she’s had the orgasm.
Why? Because it can feel very disruptive when you’re in the middle of having this huge orgasm and the hand is pulled away or removed. Not all women are the same on this, but this is a good standard to maintain so she can ride out those pleasure waves.
What Happens After the Orgasm?
Guys, this orgasm is so intense that she might have an emotional reaction. She might laugh, she might cry, she might be stuck to you like a magnet, I’ve seen it all.
A squirting orgasm is an intense experience. Sometimes there’s a lot of tension built up – sometimes for years – and you release all that! You can be a great partner by being there for all of it and not leaving her side.
You might even find that she’s able to have MORE squirting orgasms! Why not go for it again and again? Try to give her a second one! Go for a third!
What If It Didn’t Work?
Couple things could be happening: the context might not be perfect, the strength and vigor in your arm and hand might not be where it needed to be (do you even lift?), and she might just not feel comfortable enough this time to let it go. It is a HUGE “let go”. She really has to relax and let it happen. And some women might have a hard time with that.
Women can practice squirting by grabbing her own G-spot toy and bringing herself to squirting orgasm during solo sex.
Even if it doesn’t work at first, keep trying! Establish great communication! Get better at giving massages beforehand! The more relaxed she is, the more successful you’ll be.
You’re Gonna Have to Last Longer in Bed For This One.
In order to do this right, you’ll have to last 20, 40, or even 60 minutes in bed. So if you’re struggling in that department, check out my Come When You Want Masterclass: your step-by-step guide to lasting longer in bed & increasing confidence AND stamina in the sack. Go check it out. Your sex life (and your partner) will thank you.
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