Having premature ejaculation does NOT mean you’re bad at sex. But you would never know this based on how people talk about premature ejaculation (PE)! These are not mutually exclusive things, and I’m here to show you that you can pleasure your woman, bring her to orgasm, and have mind-blowing sex all night long… even with PE.
Here’s the thing. You can last for hours and be a crappy lover, and you can last for mere minutes and be AMAZING in the sack. How? Keep reading, friends!
What Makes a Great Lover?
A lot of factors make up a great lover. It’s very rare that I talk to a female friend about a recent sexual experience and she says, “He just lasted SO LONG!” Stamina is NOT the most important thing for women.
Instead, we say things like, “He was so gentle, he moved so slowly, he licked my entire body, he gave me a lot of time to warm up and get to the point where I could orgasm!”
But that doesn’t mean he was able to last forever and ever in vaginal penetration. Notice how all of these things can co-exist with premature ejaculation – being an amazing lover is NOT an endurance race.
The Single Most Important Thing For You to Know if You Have Premature Ejaculation
Ejaculation does NOT mean that sex is over. You can keep going! You can keep going with a toy, with your hands, with your mouth, and depending on your body, you can wait 10, 15, or 20 minutes for your refractory period to be over and get an erection AGAIN and keep having sex. You can ejaculate once, twice, or three times in the same evening! Talk about a party!
We always act like ejaculation is the end. We even call it “finishing”.
Imagine if you ejaculated and you went “Phew! Now were REALLY getting started.” She’d be like “Whaaat! I never – really?!”
Most men ejaculate and ASSUME that sex has to be over. Which is fair, since your body makes that soupy mixture of chemicals that says “We should rest, sex is over. It’s time to sleep.” Your sexual arousal wanes, your interest decreases, and this is all natural and perfectly okay.
But in order to be a LEGENDARY LOVER, push past that and keep going! Keep pleasuring her and keep pleasing her. She’s going to remember everything AFTER the ejaculation and not the fact that you ejaculated early. Who CARES when you ejaculate if she’s still getting her rocks off!
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Here’s How to Be an Amazing Lover With Premature Ejaculation
Sex isn’t just about vaginal penetration. We can get more exciting, creative, and adventurous than that! Here are some ways that men with PE can rock her world and keep her coming back for more.
Foreplay is your best friend. A lot of men with PE figure out how to use their hands and their mouths to be great lovers and to help women reach orgasm BEFORE they even have penetrative sex.
If your foreplay game isn’t that strong, I highly suggest you get better at it. It’s going to make you more confident. When you know that you can get a woman to reach orgasm using your body, it’s going to make you a more confident lover. Additionally, woman take 20 – 40 minutes to reach orgasm. So if you put in 20 – 40 minutes of foreplay before you even have penetrative sex, she’s going to be WAY closer, WAY more satisfied, and WAY more aroused.
Men who are good at foreplay are legendary lovers. Seriously, that is what women talk about the most. “He’s so good with his tongue, he’s so good with his hands.” Foreplay is where it’s at, and if you’re not participating in foreplay, you’re missing a golden opportunity to turn her into putty in your hands.
- Be open-minded.
This goes for all men, no matter if you have premature ejaculation or not. Be open-minded about what is going to turn her on and give her pleasure. Some men believe that stamina is the only thing women want. These men are boring.
Men, hone your skills. Be open-minded and learn how to be dominant, how to dirty talk, how to give her a full-body massage… do the things that make lovers truly memorable and that keep women coming back for more.
So if you’ve been told that premature ejaculation means you can’t be a great lover. Fuck that! You can be an AMAZING lover. IN fact, you’re going to be a better lover BECAUSE you’ve dealt with PE. You’re not a man who was born with exceptional stamina who never had to figure out what really works for women.
If anything, you have a new superpower: pleasuring her all night long, no matter when you come. Because when you come is besides the point. Her pleasure is what it’s all about.
Become an Amazing Lover and Gain Sexual Confidence
If you really want to become an amazing lover, gain sexual confidence, and create the best sex of your life, be sure to apply for a free Discovery Call with me today – so we can figure out exactly what you need in order to become that one lover that women can’t resist.
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