You don’t have to slay dragons with your cock to be the lover of her dreams.

In a word: stop thrusting like a 1970’s porno.

Yes, you see them hammering away in porn like a construction site — but that’s not what the ladies like, okay? 

Trust me on this one — the way you thrust sets the tone for:

  • How much your woman enjoys having sex with you, and
  • How quickly you bust off.

That’s why today, we’re talking about how to thrust: which speed, depth, and rhythm to use to make sure you gain ejaculatory control and last way longer in bed…

And so you can give her intense pleasure.

Technique #1  – Grind and Rock Instead of Just Going “In and Out”…

‘In and Out’ is the traditional move — the caveman move — if you will… 

Ask yourself — do you really want to make love like a caveman? 

If you want to heighten these pleasure sensors, throw the ‘Back and Forth’ technique in there.

“What the heck is the difference?” you ask.

“Back and forth” is grinding. Rocking. Because you want to rock her. Get it?

Technique #2  – Shallow vs Deep Thrusting

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Most men think they have to push DEEP into her in order to give her more pleasure.

In fact, the shallower the better, sometimes.

Here’s why:

The majority of the nerve endings within a vagina are found within the first couple inches of the opening.

What does this mean? Well.. if you want to bring her to orgasm, you need to post up shop and hang out there for a little bit. 

Oh, and on the extra plus side, this feels amazing for you (the man of the hour) without you feeling the urge to erupt too soon. 

Once she has had a few orgasms you’re in the clear for some deep thrusting.

Technique #3  – Slow vs. Fast Thrusting 

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What’s the first thing that comes to mind when I mention fast thrusting? A jackhammer? Yeah, no thanks.

If you’d go strictly off porn, you would think women love being hammered into like a drill for the entirety of the sex act.

Not only is this boring and unimaginative, but it’s sometimes painful and uncomfortable.

Women like a slow burn. Take it slow. breathe it in. Enjoy it.

Sure, when your partner is close to reaching her orgasm, the fast (not to be confused with deep) thrusting is usually required to get her making her ‘Ooooh’ face. But when it comes to the overall pace, start slow. 

You can get more fast and intense when she’s near her tipping point. 

Technique #4  – Be Relaxed. Unclench Those Butt Cheeks.

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Be aware of your body during sex. Are you clenching your butt cheeks?

Relax.

Reason being: you don’t need to clench in order to stay inserted or erect. 

Reason #2: when you relax during thrusting, you’ll be able to last longer and less likely to climax too soon. 

If you want to feel confident in the sack, bring her full satisfaction every time and feel relaxed and in control, check out my Master Class HERE. It will give you the need to learn total ejaculatory control.

Technique #5  – Take some breaks.

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Sex should not be all about the end goal. While orgasms are great, it’s often beneficial to break the script.

Sometimes we all need a time-out…. and sex is no exception. Sometimes a change in tempo is a great thing. 

If you’re going long and strong, chances are, you’ll need a break. 

Take it. 

“But Caitlin,” you say, “I work so hard to maintain my erection! I don’t want to lose it!” 

I promise you, your erection will be back. Give your hard-on a breather, and once it’s ready, it’ll come back. 

Technique #6  – Hard vs Gentle Thrusting

If there’s one thing you take away from this blog article, make sure it’s this:

There’s no reason to thrust hard and fast in the beginning of sex…. 

Build up to intensity. Start slow, and she’ll beg you for more.

Why? Women need 20-30 minutes of stimulation before reaching orgasm. Gentle thrusting feels WAY better for women (and it prevents you from pressure cookin’ and busting off too soon.) This is essential for my dudes with premature ejaculation. 

Bad Advice You Should Never Follow 

There are some male sex industry “experts” that will tell you to pound away HARD at your woman. 

On behalf of all women …. Please don’t. 

If you want your partner to experience mind-bending pleasure, to BEG for more, and to orgasm over and over… you need to master the gentle thrust. 

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Thrusting Techniques are Spectrum Based – Try Them Out

Some techniques may have you ejaculate hard and quick, others will make you last much longer and turn your woman into a puddle of pleasure.

If you are unsure where your edge is, you need to enroll in my ‘Come when you want’ Masterclass. It is 98% effective at helping you take control over your ejaculation in 90 days or less.

And let’s face it… lasting longer is so much easier if you have the right techniques that ALSO make your partner feel damn good. 

Que your female partner moaning, screaming, calling your name… 

A lovely sound.