Coming too early can be frustrating. It can make it difficult to satisfy your partner. But there is ONE secret to a better sex life that’s really quite simple. This one secret can not only help you delay ejaculation (and stop premature ejaculation for good) but can also help you last long enough to help your woman reach orgasm through sex and BEG you for more.
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No lie, there’s one thing that every man – all people, in fact – have in common. All orgasms spring from the same formula. Once we understand orgasms, we can understand how to control them.
No lie, there’s one thing that every man – all people, in fact – have in common. All orgasms spring from the same formula. Once we understand orgasms, we can understand how to control them.
The One Thing That All Orgasms Have in Common
All orgasms are based in tension.
That’s right – as you build arousal, you build more and more tension in your body. All that tension is centered around your genitals. But all your muscles – from your abs to your thighs – build and hold that tension. When you get close to climax, that tension pushes you over the edge.
So how do you stop yourself from – bloop! – going over the edge? You control the amount of tension in your body!
It’s impossible to reach orgasm without holding any muscle tension. You can’t come when you’re totally relaxed. Use this to your advantage. Use this knowledge to gain familiarity with your body, discover where you hold tension, and prevent yourself from reaching orgasm too early.
The Three Essential Steps to Lasting Longer in Bed
In order to fix premature ejaculation, there are three simple steps you can take while having sex or while masturbating. Practice makes perfect!
1. Notice where you store tension in your body.
Everyone is a little bit different. I’ve seen men who’ve stored tension in every muscle of their body – from their arms all the way down to their feet – to even get to the point of ejaculation. For most people, it’s in the abs, in the glutes, in the thighs. Chances are, the tension’s going to be right around your genitals.
Masturbation is great when it comes to checking into your body. Make mental notes. “Okay, I’m getting closer to orgasm… I’m feeling tension building in my lower abs.” or “As I get closer to coming, I’m squeezing my thighs together and pinching my butt!”
Just notice. Knowing where you store tension is the first step to controlling premature ejaculation.
2. Release that tension!
Once you check in with each muscle group and key into where you hold tension, it’s time to release that tension. Take a deep breath, exhale, and imagine that you’re actually releasing the tension that was stored up in those muscles. Visualize the tension leaving your body.
If you struggle to isolate that muscle and breathe tension out of it, try this: SQUEEZE that muscle as HARD as you can, and let it go. You’ll instantly feel more relaxed. (And remember, you can’t ejaculate if you’re relaxed!)
3. Practice this on your own!
Masturbation! Yes, practice on your own! The more aware you are of what’s happening in your body as you feel sexual arousal, the more you can control it.
Think about it like driving a car. The harder you step on the gas, the faster the car goes. The more tension you hold in your body, the faster you’ll reach orgasm. So hold off the gas. Relax your body. Let go of that tension.
Experiment the same way you did when you first learned how to drive. See what feels good, what doesn’t, what works, what different muscle groups are involved. Study yourself! Learn your body. Become aware of what’s going on when you’re getting it on.
Get Out of Your Head
Better sex means getting out of your head and keying into your body. The longer you revel in the sensations of the body, the longer you’ll last.
This might seem counterintuitive but trust me. I’ve worked with hundreds of men on this one issue alone. It’s a matter of connecting to your body and knowing, feeling, and being familiar with your own arousal.
So take your time! Scan slowly up and down your body, checking in. Engage with the pleasure, with the tension, and really experience how your body feels. This is the time to see what stimulation you enjoy and don’t enjoy.
Still ejaculating too soon? That’s okay – it just means that you started checking in too late. Next time, check in earlier, before you even notice that tension is building.
And remember, I’m here to help. With a free consultation, we can start you on the path to lasting longer and blowing women’s minds. You got this.
What if I Lose My Erection?
Do not panic! This is awesome! It means you’re that much further from ejaculating! Take this opportunity to pleasure your woman! Go down on her, finger her, stimulate her clitoris, take a coffee break, switch positions… use this opportunity to prolong your lovemaking and give your woman even more pleasure, more orgasms, and more time to reach that special level of arousal that all women need!
Remember – women’s bodies work the same way as yours. Women also build up and store tension as they get closer to female orgasm. It just takes their bodies longer to get there.
This is literally the keys to the sexy kingdom! This is the ultimate porn star secret to mind-blowing sex so you can ejaculate when you want. Use these skills to play around, build, move, change, and fluctuate your arousal so you can create a wonderful experience for yourself and your partner.
Never Ejaculate Prematurely Again.
You want to last longer in bed, please your woman, enjoy more sex, and turn up the heat on your relationship. I’m here to help. Check out my Masterclass, Come When You Want, which is my video course designed to help you overcome PE in just 90 days.
