If you asked men “what is your worst nightmare?” one of the responses you might get is “Slowly losing the length and size of my penis.”

“Waking up one day to realize I’ve lost a whole inch and I can’t account for it, it’s just gone.”

This might sound like something out of a surrealist horror story, but for the many men who suffer from Buried Penis, this nightmare is all too real.

Many of them don’t even know that this condition has a name and a solution.

In fact, this condition has multiple solutions.

Because if you have this condition that makes you lose the length of your penile shaft, guess what?

You can still have an amazing sex life.

I’m sex and relationship coach Caitlin V, and it’s come to my attention through the people I work with and through my coaching applications that many men are suffering from Hidden Penis. We need to address it.

Hidden Penis, otherwise known as Embedded Penis, happens in 4% of newborn baby boys. Unfortunately, the statistics are lacking when it comes to how many ADULT men suffer from adult-onset hidden penis.

What Causes Adult-Onset Hidden Penis?

There are three main factors that contribute to Adult-Onset Hidden Penis:

• Obesity
• Fluid retention
• Botched circumcision

There are also some other health conditions not listed here that can cause an excess of skin on the public mound that eventually engulfs the entire penis.

If you fear you are at risk for this, there is hope! There are several ways to prevent Hidden Penis from getting worse, and ways you can solve the issue altogether. But first, I want you to know something important.

Why Talk About Hidden Penis?

It’s not hard to see why Hidden Penis is so upsetting for men. They’re losing the length and girth of their penis! Unfortunately though, that’s not the only reason we need to talk about Hidden Penis.

Men who suffer from Hidden Penis can experience painful erections, make it difficult to have penetrative sex, and cause deep shame for most men.

Sex comes loaded with enough shame as it is! Embedded Penis is a perfect storm of all the elements that add up to shame: sex, bodies, obesity… all the things that our culture associates with shame.

So if you’re struggling with Hidden Penis or think you might be at risk, there’s something you need to know.

I’m here to let you know that you are not alone. The more we talk about this, the more people will know that they’re not the only ones, and there’s nothing to be ashamed about. That said, if you DO have Hidden Penis, I’m sure you don’t want it getting worse. Here’s the down-low.

How to Prevent Hidden Penis From Getting Worse

What can you do if your public area keeps disappearing?

Maintain a healthy, active lifestyle.

Eating healthy foods and getting plenty of exercise can act as both a preventative measure and a remedy. Maintaining a healthy weight and body mass index can prevent you from ever losing access to your entire penis to excess fat and avoiding surgical treatment.

Think about what a healthy, active lifestyle looks like for you.

Does it mean hiring a personal trainer? Designating an accountability partner to hit the gym with you? Getting some cardio with your doggo a couple times a week? Going on a walk after lunch every day?

Maybe it’s modifying your diet. If you drink soda every day, swap out all that sugar for some tea or lemon water.

You might feel crappy for a couple days, but then you’re going to feel SO MUCH MORE ENERGY! You’ll feel like a new man. I promise.

Changing your diet – even in small ways – can have a huge impact over time.

This advice might make you feel resistant.

I ask you to consider where that resistance is coming from. What are you resistant to when it comes to working out or eating healthy?

Maybe you don’t feel worthy of eating well. You don’t feel worthy of taking the time out of your day to exercise. You don’t feel worthy of having a body you love, that improves your quality of life.

I don’t even have to know you to say: you are absolutely worthy of feeling great in your body.

If you have a chronic illness or physical disability that makes traditional exercise impossible, talk to your doctor or physical therapist to find the right solution for you. It’s never impossible to live your healthiest life.

Get the help you need. It doesn’t matter how old you are, it doesn’t matter what you do for a living, it doesn’t matter how much money is in your bank account. Don’t make excuses! This is your PENIS we’re talking about!

Which leads me to my next point.

Talk to your doctor.

If it’s gotten to a point where your penis is fully embedded (meaning, the skin is all the way around the shaft of your penis) than take a deep breath, pick up the phone, and book an appointment with a urologist.

This can be very hard for men. This requires courage and bravery. This requires a lot of self-compassion and self-worth.

But guess what? That’s what urologists are here for, silly goose! And don’t be afraid to get a second, third, or fourth opinion.  

If they don’t give you a positive answer “Yes, we’re going to figure this out and get you everything you need” than go see a different doctor.

It’s up to you to be brave enough to explain your symptoms to your doctor in a way that advocates high-quality care.

By the way, following step 1 and maintaining a healthy lifestyle will help you out A LOT when it comes to seeing your doctor. Living a healthy life will show the doctor that you’re taking this problem by the HORNS. And if you happen to need surgical management, you’ll be in fighting shape to recover in no time.

What If You Need A Procedure?

If your doctor recommends surgery, it’s typically to remove the excess skin and fat around your penis, called suprapubic lipectomy.

For some men, some reconstruction of the penis itself might be necessary. If that’s the case, (and if penis repair rightfully scares you a little bit), just think of how wonderful it will feel to hold your own penis in your hands again.

Guys, this is powerful, and worth the time and pain of getting medical attention.

Go get yourself checked out, go get the procedure. Ask for help during the recovery process.

Remember your dick is worth it! How can you put a price tag on being able to have penetrative sex again?

The One Surprising Thing You Don’t Need for Great Sex

What I want to drive home for ALL men reading this … even men who don’t think they’ll ever suffer from Hidden Penis… is this:

Great sex does not require an erection.

✨ ✨ALL MINDS ARE BEING BLOWN ALL ACROSS THE WORLD! ✨ ✨

You do not need an erection to experience pleasure. You do not need an erection to give her a FANTASTIC, steamy, out-of-this-world sexual experience.

How to be a Pleasure-Provider For Her (Even If You Have Hidden Penis)

Sir, you have your hands. You have your mouth. You have your heart, your being, your soul, and your presence. You have the gift of your attention.

Speaking as a sex-lovin’ woman here: all those things are way more pleasurable than a hard dick. Alright? A hard dick on its own means nothing without the eyes, the hands, the presence, the energy, the PASSION, the kindness of a good man.

My up-and-coming Masterclass, She Comes Too, is finally here! This is your full guide on how to give her mind-blowing pleasure, so she always begs for more.

Here’s the million-dollar question:

Are you the kind of guy that women want to have sex with? That’s interested in giving his woman pleasure? Are you okay with pleasure being the measure of sexual success?

If you don’t think any of these things are enough, remember: THEY MAKE PENISES! They’re popping off the assembly line every single day! Every size, every shape, every color! You can have a whole drawer of them. (You can have TWO whole drawers of them!) and you can still give your partner penetration, and you can get the exact perfect dick size for her.

I know you’re hearing this right now and thinking, “Caitlin… it’s not the SAME. That’s not the kind of intercourse I want to have. I want to have full-on penis penetration!”

You can have an amazing sex life without an erection. And for SO MANY of you, basing your entire sex life and all the pleasure you can experience on your ability to get an erection puts an undue amount of stress on you, puts an undue amount of stress on your partner, and completely misses the point.

The point of sex is not erections. The point of sex is pleasure.

An Important Question to Ask Yourself If You Can’t Get An Erection

How can you increase the amount of pleasure under these circumstances? How can you give her the most pleasure? How can you give YOU the most pleasure?

Even if an erection isn’t possible… if you’re able to ask these questions with an open heart, your sex life is going to be great. I can damn-near guarantee that. 

Hidden Penis? There’s Nothing to Feel Ashamed Of.

To recap: Hidden Penis or Embedded Penis is becoming increasingly more common. If you have it, there’s nothing to feel ashamed of. Go see your doctor to discuss your options.

Having a great sex life is possible for you, and I will be here to support you every single step of the way. If you need that extra boost of super-love and support, I want you to reach out to me. I’ve helped hundreds of men overcome performance anxiety, sexual shame, erectile dysfunction, and more. Click here to apply to work with me today! Together, we can build an amazing sex life for you and your partner.