5 Thoughts She’s Had About Deep Throat (& How She Can Finally Enjoy Those Deep BJs)

5 Thoughts She’s Had About Deep Throat (& How You Can Help Her Enjoy Those Deep BJs)

Fun Fact about me: I’m really bad at deep-throating. I’m really writing this blog article for BOTH of us.

Deep throating is a common fantasy for men. It feels good to have the entire length of your schlong inside of her entire mouth and throat. But if done wrong, it can actually cause both of you a lot of pain.

Furthermore, many women have strong feelings about deep throating and blow jobs in general. Some women hate them with a vehement passion. And unfortunately, many men do a poor job of handling their partner’s objections.

In other words, men ask for a good, hot session of deep throat, but they fail to explain why they really want it, or what it means to them.

Left to their own conclusions, women fill in the blanks with the worst possible explanations. “His slutty ex-girlfriend did it, and therefore he wants ME to do it!” or “He just wants to treat me like a sex object and he will never respect me again after he sees that” or “he just likes seeing me in pain and discomfort! Gag!” or “He watched that in porn, and he has NO respect for women!”

If you want her to consider taking your entire dick in her mouth, you’re going to have to talk about it and communicate. But don’t worry, because I’m going to tell you the exact words you need to use in order to have a productive conversation that ends with both of you enjoying yourselves between the sheets (and that’s the whole idea, right?)

Your Woman Wants to Make You Feel Amazing in Bed.

5 thoughts shes had about deep throat

Before we get started, there’s something else you need to know. Women are sexual creatures. Think about it! Who are the ones who have the most stamina in bed? Who are the ones who can have multiple orgasms?

Your woman is waiting for you to unlock and unleash their WILD SIDE. Women WANT to be sexual. They want to be sexual with you. And importantly, the majority of women really want to please their man.

In fact, the majority of women are just waiting for you to ask us in the right way so we feel that we have permission to go straight to PLEASURE TOWN!

But a big part of unlocking a woman’s wild side is understanding what her barriers are. And once you understand those barriers and how to work with them, you can coach her on exactly how to give you oral sex, EXACTLY in the way you like it.

But how, you ask. How do I unlock those barriers? I hate to say it, but it starts with the big, bad, scary thing we call communication.

Approach her curiously. Engage a conversation. This is not an argument. You are simply seeking to understand.

Once you know what her barriers are, I can show you EXACTLY how to unlock them.

The 5 Most Common Objections Women Have About Blow Jobs and Deep Throating

“I physically can’t.”

If this is her objection, you have nothing to worry about. Scroll down to my super fancy guide on how to deep throat, or watch it on my YouTube channel. I go into how to coach her to deep throat you in a way that’s pleasurable for BOTH of you.

I promise that almost all women CAN deep throat, so we’ll tackle that one in just a second.

“It’s gross.”

I hate to burst your bubble, but a lot of women feel that the entire male genital area is smelly, swampy, and hairy. (yiiiiikes.)

Ask her if having a shower beforehand (maybe the two of you showering together?!) where you scrub in between your balls, your taint, your junk, EVERYTHING – where you make sure you smell perfectly nice and clean (LIKE A BED OF ROSES) and that there’s no grease, grime, dead skin, gym sweat, NOTHING, NADA. Clean as a whistle.

If it’s right for both of you, you can even offer to trim your pubic hair – trim the hair on your balls, trim the hair on your taint, in order to give her a cleaner and easier canvas to work with.

Also, if her objection is that she doesn’t want you to come inside her mouth, just ask her where it would be hot for you to finish. Giving her control over where you finish – and actually following through – will be very helpful in earning and keeping her trust, and it might move her in the direction of finishing where you want to finish once she knows she can trust you.

“It’s slutty and only dirty girls do it.”

5 Thoughts She’s Had About Deep Throat (& How She Can Finally Enjoy Those Deep BJs)

Have you ever found that even the most uptight, anti-sex woman turns into an amazingly slutty wild woman in bed after some deliciously dirty things are done to her?

That’s because when we’re super aroused, our willingness to do stuff we wouldn’t otherwise do … increases.

All you have to do is get her worked up, aroused, and really wet WITHOUT going over the edge and giving her an orgasm.

When she’s all wet, hot, and bothered is the time you want to re-approach the subject. It could be that you’re approaching it way too early on, when she’s not turned on enough to do something she considers “slutty” or “dirty.”

But once she’s close to orgasm and REALLLY turned on and sex sounds like a REALLY fun thing for her, she might be more willing to try going deep.  

This only works if she hasn’t outright said “NO” to deep throating. If it’s a hard no, she doesn’t want to deep throat all, and you can’t work around this.

You don’t want to come off as being pushy or coercive if she doesn’t want to EVER do it.

The other thing you can do to overcome this objection is to communicate to her about how YOU see oral sex, or how you see deep throat. What does it provide for you? What do you think of her when she goes down on you? Do you view her as sexy? Beautiful? Cute? Does it make you feel like a porn star? Does it make you feel like you’re having sex with a porn star? What benefit does it provide for you?

This reminds me of a man that once said, “I told my wife that I loved her on the day I married her, and I’ll let her know if that changes.”

Men, if you’re in a relationship with a woman, you probably know how crappy of a policy this is. We like to know that we’re loved! She wants to know that she’s pleasing you. She wants to know what providing oral sex does for you. (and she probably wants to know it often.)

Which leads me to the fourth common objection…

She just “isn’t that into it” or she doesn’t know why YOU are so into it.

You don’t understand why she loves receiving flowers, and she doesn’t understand why you love being deep throated.

Do YOU know why you love it?

If you don’t even know why it would be so fulfilling for you, maybe you need to ask yourself, “Why do I even want this? What does it do for me? How would it make me feel? How would it make me feel about her?” Figure all these out before you try to explain it to her.

You don’t reciprocate.

If you are a lackluster lover who does not pull your weight in the sack, who doesn’t give her orgasms, who doesn’t make her legs shake with pleasure, she’s probably not going to be eager to do the kinky, nasty stuff that you’re into.

You have to give before you receive. That’s just good manners. If you’re not the most amazing lover she’s ever had, she’s not going to try and be the most amazing lover YOU’VE ever had.

If you want to bring her to her knees and become the best lover she’s ever had, check out my course She Comes Too. All you have to do is CLICK THIS LINK, and it will take you to the course. I’ll walk you through seduction, foreplay, intercourse, and aftercare, so you can knock her socks right off along with her underwear.

Trust me – when you provide such a high level of pleasure and satisfaction for her, she’s going to be MORE than eager to provide it back for you.

Women want to reciprocate! And all of us want our partner to go first. If you want this, go first. Become a great lover, and THEN you can go all in and ask for deep throat.

And finally, for those women who say they can’t deep throat, here’s my ultimate guide. **drum roll please**

How to Help Her Deep Throat Like A Champ

deep throat like a champ

Give these tips and pointers to your special lady so she can become educated in the coveted skill of deep throat.

She can desensitize her throat by regularly exposing it to things that make her gag, while continuing to breathe.

This could be a finger, it could be a tooth brush, it could be a banana. Once she’s more advanced at this, she can even send you sexy pictures of her practicing on sex toys while you’re away at work!

All she has to do is introduce something to the back of her throat while continuing to breathe deeply. A minimum of ten seconds, several times a day, several times a week. She will notice overtime an increased ability to have something in the back of her throat without triggering the gag reflex.

Pick a position that puts her throat and mouth in alignment with your schlong.

The angle of her throat should be like a straight, unbent straw. If she’s bent over, and if her throat is crimped, it creates an untenable angle in the throat, especially if she’s never deep throated before.

Have her lie down flat on the bed with her head gently off the bed, while you enter her by standing right beside the bed.

From this position, she can put her hands around your hips and can pull you closer to her as she can take you deeper into her throat.

Which leads me into step three.

Gentlemen, stay perfectly still. PERFECTLY STILL!

If you start trying to move in and out, you might gag her. Just chill. Stand still. She’s got it – she knows where your dick is – let her guide it. Let her be in control. Make sure that its nice and wet in there, that she’s’ got a lot of spit, that she’s got a glass of water nearby. That is how you can be the most helpful: by staying still and being patient.

You can also help her out by reminding her to breathe, or by encouraging her to hum. Some people find that humming relaxes their throat (but others say it makes them gag) so you’re just helping her find solutions that work best for her.

Remember that practice makes pleasurable! She might not get this right on the first try. And remember: some potential risks of deep throating include throwing up, gagging, and spasming, all of which are pretty unpleasant. It is KEY for you to be supportive and patient.

Show your appreciation in a million lovely ways.

The last and most important step is for you to thank her in her love language. Or screw that – thank her in ALL of the love languages! Thank her by telling her that she’s wonderful and that you appreciate her – that she’s sexy and beautiful and that seeing your dick in her mouth means you could die happy.  

Thank her again the next day by sending her a text message. Do something sweet for her like getting her a glass of cocoa or giving her a foot massage (whatever y’all get down with). Show her that you love her again and again. This will build up her desire to deep throat you because she sees how happy and appreciative you are.

Great Oral Sex Takes Practice (And A Little Bit of Knowing What Actually Works)

Don’t give up! Oral sex feels spectacular for men, for women, for gender non-conforming folks, oral sex is the best! I am on a mission to help you have amazing, sock-knocking, mind-blowing, earth-shattering oral sex. Check out my course She Comes Too to learn exactly how to pleasure your woman. Life is too short to put up with bad sex. Take the leap into sexiness today!