10 Ways to Become Amazing at Fingering

If you can have penis-in-vagina sex and roll around the sack for hours, why would you want to finger her? 

Answer: Because fingering is one of the BEST tools in your foreplay arsenal.

Use fingering to help her open up for wider, thicker things, like big toys, big dicks, and even fists. It all starts with a good fingering.

And let’s be honest — fingering feels SO GOOD that it could be its own MEAL. So, why NOT bring her to orgasm?

And finally, finger excellence is the gateway to making her squirt.

So without further ado, let’s “put a finger” on the 10 ways to get amazing at fingering.

This article will show you how to bring her to intense pleasure, whether you’re warming her up for “the real thing” or just having some fun up her skirt. 

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10 Steps to Becoming Amazing at Fingering

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Here’s the thing: if you don’t know how to finger her correctly, you’ll create an incredibly uncomfortable experience for her, and maybe even hurt her. Not ideal, especially when the goal is pleasure.

Keep reading to discover how to become amazing at fingering.

1. Make sure you’re set up for finger action

Look down at your hands right now. 

Are you a guitar player with long-ass fingernails? That’s not going to work, Mic Jagger, trim those puppies. 

Make sure your hands are CLEAN. Hygiene is essential when you’re about to put a couple of fingers up her vagina. 

And speaking of setup, it helps to exercise your hands regularly so they’re nice and strong and won’t get tired when she’s about to come!

And speaking of getting tired, make sure you’re both in a comfortable position, so you don’t have to interrupt the pleasure and flow to relieve that arm cramp.

2. Start with only one finger

Despite what you’ve learned in porn, her vagina is not ready for pounding 100% of the time. 

She has to get relaxed and aroused enough to open UP enough to allow more fingers up there. 

In fact, according to WebMD, it takes women at least 11-12 minutes to become aroused.

3. Get your tempo right

Start slow and sensual. Starting slow is the ONLY way to get her to BEGGING for you, start whimpering in pleasure, and crave more from you.

If you start fast like a jackrabbit, IT WILL HURT HER, and she’ll recoil from you and not want more. 

If you start off going 200 mph, you’ll just burn her out and exhaust yourself. SLOW DOWN!

Need more convincing about going slower during foreplay? Read this article by Men’s Health about the benefits of slowing down.

4. Learn the sexiest motion of the ocean 

Once you can get a couple of fingers up inside of her, you’ll be able to feel a rough-nub up inside her … about 2 inches in. This little nub is round, slightly rough and is called her G-spot.

Press both fingers against the g-spot with the “COME HITHER” motion. Start soft and apply slightly more and more pressure, the more aroused she gets. 

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5. Pay attention to the clitoris and the rest of the vagina 

I told this to Healthline, and I’ll tell it to you: 

Make sure you give ample attention with your fingers to the g-spot, the perineum (located between the vaginal opening and the anus), and the anal opening or anal canal.

Just remember: if you dip a finger in the butt, you can’t go back to the vagina. Wash up first!

6. Watch for her non-verbal cues to see if you should adjust your approach

Look, this is just the central tenant of being a good lover in general. 

Watch if she is pushing her hips closer; maybe apply more pressure. Or, if she is pulling her hips back, perhaps you need to reduce tension. 

Is she moving her hips closer and grinding up against you, panting hard, and getting flush? Is her vulva getting puffier? You can go harder.

Is she pulling herself away? It’s time to go softer.

See how she moves and adjust with her.

7. Maintain a connection with her

Men go wrong when they focus solely on the mechanics and technique of fingering that they forget they’re pleasuring a real live woman.

Breathe with her, maintain some eye contact, coax her on, moan with her — if you only focus on the technique and mechanics, and act too focused and serious like you’re trying to wrestle with a mechanical engine part, it will turn her off.

Bonus points if you can pull off some dirty talk while you’re at it.

8. Bring in toys!

Remember when I said fingering was a great way to ramp up foreplay? 

Introduce sex toys in the next round.

Sex toys, like larger dildos — are great– because women LOVE feeling thick objects going into their vaginas. So once she’s all warmed up and begging for you, don’t be afraid to go bigger — but keep teasing her with toys instead of giving her the dick.

This technique will create loads of anticipation and lead to a huge orgasm.

9. Use lube

Using lube is one of the best ways to increase her pleasure and make your rough and manly fingers feel smooth and pleasurable inside of her. 

Lube makes it easier for her to open up and become more aroused.

A good rule of thumb would be never to touch her clitoris or vagina with a dry hand. I recommend using Royal’s all-natural lubricant with Aloe Vera.

10. Have her show you what she likes 

Do not underestimate the value of watching her finger herself.

Imagine watching her finger herself, so you can see EXACTLY how she likes to be touched and what techniques she uses on herself to make herself come.

So now that you’re a true, professional finger smith, remember to use the techniques in this article to ramp up foreplay, and remember it as a tool in your arsenal for when you want to give her the most intense squirting orgasm of her life.

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